The Perfect Fem Domme/male sub relationship: My Definition
When a man does decide to enter into a Female Dominated relationship with me he is setting the ground work for a life of happy servitude that will be physically, emotionally, spiritually and psychologically rewarding and fulfilling.
Sadly most men only come to realize the benefits of female led relationships later in life (in their 40′s and 50′s) after having unsuccessful vanilla marriages. No wonder most marriages fail when the vanilla couples never sit down and discuss D/s. The two people end up fighting for power and control in the relationship and it will in time fail.
Lucky for me I have managed to find and date a good number of the few handsome submissives out there that are in their mid-20′s and early 30′s.
With the right Domme to support and guide the male sub, a life of servitude will bring a great sense of purpose and meaning to his life. Within that union you will have trust, security, peace of mind and spirit.
BDSM when done properly, for me, needs to be done in a relationship. There needs to be trust, understanding, mutual respect and caring. I care for all of the subs I have been with. I know I am unusual in my thinking but intimacy is what I need to be able to Domme a man.
Casual play partners (whether the play involves sex or not) is still like casual sex for me. I am not interested in casual fun. A deep and meaningful bond is what I always aspire to achieve.
So what makes a good male sub? My definition of a great sub is a man that in his heart he has a desire, yearning, longing and drive to submit and to serve a woman in a loving and nurturing environment. A man that lives and breathes the role and has the psyche of a submissive. And with his submissive personality and disposition would come an abundance of gratitude and appreciation.
Appreciation is very important to me. If my sub is truly grateful for my time and verbalizes his gratitude it demonstrates to me that I am not wasting my time.
Training a new sub is very laborious and time consuming. I take great care when training a new sub. His appreciation is vital in the D/s union.
Though I have had many subs throughout my life, I have not as yet taken on and collared a slave. This is my wish. I am always looking to find the right mix of obedience, past training, servitude abilities and sexual chemistry.
Therefore my search continues xoxo